Family is forever right? The people who are supposed to support you and always be there no matter what and the ones who are supposed to get you through hard times without passing judgement.Thats the way it’s supposed to be.So why is it in some cases they are the ones who bring the pain and humiliation.Im speaking In terms of extended family as well ( aunties,uncles ,cousins,in-laws etc)
I watched an episode of catfish a while back.A guy had fallen in love over Facebook and him and his cousin went all around searching with the presenters for his unknown love.Just as they thought they were going to meet him his cousin piped up and confessed it was her. She was upset with something he had said in the past so decided to hurt him this way. For tv purposes it’s funny as hell. But imagine your own flesh and blood going out their way just to hurt you the way that they know will effect you the most.
It be your own family sometimes.
That’s the scariest thing about opening up to anyone.Whether it’s family or friend.Leaving yourself entirely vulnerable is such a brave thing and for someone to come through and think it’s okay to abuse that is despicable.
It hit me after I fell pregnant with my first child. Those that I thought I could trust and depend on were the people who really tore me down.It wasn’t so much the confrontation but more the whispers that fluttered their way back to me.I think what makes it worse is you’re brought up to believe that friends are temporary and family is for life. And it’s true some friends DEFINITELY come and go but relations can also let you down.And when they do,the pain is unimaginable.
Don’t get me wrong this isn’t the case for everyone.Some people are blessed to have relations who would truly ride to the ends of the earth for them.
Those who have gone through that pain,you’re not alone. I know a few words won’t alter how people are but maybe try changing how you allow it to affect you.
Once you condition your mind to accept that blood doesn’t change how people think you’ll be able to feel a little more lighter. One of the greatest people in my life taught me that if a person is always going to be connected to you study how they are and if you can’t forgive their antics,learn how to tolerate them.
Better the devil you know.
Build a mental wall between their negative ways and only allow in the positive (If they provide any lol).I’m used to just cutting off all contact but I’m trying to be a better person and not hold any grudges (because damn,can I hold them). I feel better and my heart isn’t so heavy anymore.
“Forgiveness Doesn’t Excuse Their Behaviour. It Prevents Their Behaviour from Destroying Your Heart.”